I was against Elena turning, but I’ve made peace with it and realize that it had to happen. I agree with the TVD is being told in 2 parts approach others have put out there. And, S3 made it clear that Damon and Elena just couldn’t work while she was human and he was a vampire, because Damon is a vampire who won’t play human (unlike Stefan) and Elena just couldn’t make that leap, no matter how much she wanted to.
The issue came up twice in S3. First in 3x04, when Elena and Damon had their confrontation about him acting like a vampire. Damon straight-up told her he wasn’t going to play human for her. He reined himself in, but only so far. That time, Elena bridged the gap and accepted she was wrong to try to change Damon, but she wasn’t comfortable with that side of him. She pulled a Stefan and ignored it.
It came up again in 3x19. Damon’s emotions and emotional responses scare Elena because, as a human, she just cannot understand them. Damon told her he wouldn’t make it easy for her by screwing up, he challenged her to meet him again. But this time, it was too much and Elena just couldn’t do it. She wanted to. She wanted to trust 3 seasons of understanding, trust and buildup, but she couldn’t do it because she even though Elena understands the human side of Damon, she doesn’t understand the vampire side. Or she didn’t. She’s about to understand it very well.
Stefan isn’t like Elena. He’s not emotional. Elena actually is very emotional, she just represses them. So is Damon. He respresses his emotions…less…although as a human, he did his fair share of choking back how he really felt. I don’t think Stefan will be able to help Elena deal with the heightened emotions, blood lust and everything else nearly as much as Damon will because Stefan doesn’t get it. His issues are entirely different. Damon and Elena, they’re the same.
Also, Tatum, I kind of hope Damon teaches Elena how to eat people, too. And I hope Stefan prisses around in the background horrified and jealous all at the same time.
Stefan and Elena and Their Commitment
I think Elena is going to very quickly start to feel that sick feeling you get in your gut when you realize that you made a mistake. Like, she’s going to start to feel it the first time she sees Damon. I agree with those who think there is no way she could have told Damon good-bye in person. And, I’d bet money that it’s Elena who asks him to stay in town. (I’m sure Stefan would pack Damon’s bags for him, buy a one-way ticket, drive him to the airport and change the locks on the BH at this point.)
So, start of 4x02, Elena has turned, and she’s faced with Stefan, who is feeling all guilty and insecure, and, of course, it is Elena’s responsibility to reassure him no matter what else is going on in her life. Damon is around, but understandably keeping his distance and most likely starting up something with Meredith. And, in addition to the magnification of Elena’s feelings for Damon, she’s got all these new memories swirling around in her head, all overshadowed by the whole being a vampire thing she has to deal with as quickly as possible to be there for Jeremy, who has got to be about ready for a mental break down at this point. So, Elena’s not eager to soul search at first. Plus, she does love Stefan, rejecting Damon killed her (literally, as it turns out), and the last thing she wants to do is finally make a monumental decision, then re-think it.
So Elena will “commit” to her choice and try as hard as she can to make it work with Stefan. It won’t. I think they’ve more or less told us that. The show will drag it out, but Stefan and Elena will fail, for real and on their own terms. I’m sure of it. And I’m so glad it’s happening this way, because I’ve always had a bad feeling that if DE got together now, SE would find their way back to each other because the break up was blamed on external circumstances. If they break up because they’re just not compatible, well that’s that.
I know some thing that Damon and Rebekah will hook up, but I don’t think that is likely for a couple of reasons. First, Rebekah just killed Elena and nearly killed Matt; her time in MF is done. I’d bet Damon and Bric’s stake - if it made it back to MF - run her ass out of town ASAP. Second, Damon and Rebekah are just sex, nothing more, and Elena will always be able to dismiss them as such. Meredith is a legit love interest for Damon, and Elena won’t be able to dismiss her as readily, nor will Damon. I was iffy on MD because of the Alaric thing earlier, but I got over it once I thought about how quasi-incestuous everyone’s relationships on this show are. Now, I think that Deredith may be one of the best things that could happen to DE right now.
Damon needs Meredith right now. Someone who can just be there for him. Not torn about it. Not drama. Just someone he can actually count on, who chooses him and helps soothe out the hurt, loneliness, disappointment, rejection and fear of eternity alone that’s got to be overwhelming Damon at this point. And, whatever develops between them will be real. Damon doesn’t have to compel Meredith. She knows he’s a vampire, isn’t telling and isn’t really afraid of him. Plus, she is presumably on vervain, anyway.
Meredith will never replace or surplant Elena for Damon. He will never love her as much as he loves Elena. (That’s most likely what will split them up. Well, that and Meredith either dying or deciding she wants the life with kids, etc.) But Damon will sincerely admire, respect and care for her, and he’ll experience what that feels like in return. It will be more than a friends with benefits situation. And, it will make Damon happy and ease his loneliness enough so that he no longer be willing to accept a “maybe” from Elena. He has grown and changed and become a better person, and he deserves better than being jerked around by someone who is also in love with Stefan.
So, at the exact same time Elena is realizing her mistake in letting Damon go, she’s going to be watching him with someone else. Now it’s Elena’s turn to live in that special circle of hell reserved for watching the one you love being with someone else. She can take Damon’s spot, I guess. I hope that out of MD, we get at least one, but preferably two good scenes for DE. First, Damon rejects Elena. This absolutely has to happen. It’s the only way to put them back on anything approaching emotional equal footing. Second, Elena has her own 2x08 moment and realize that she cannot be selfish with Damon, so she lets him go. This also needs to happen because this is not what Elena did in the last episode. In the last episode, Elena let him go because it was what she needed, and, he’s still there. She needs to let Damon to because it’s what he needs. (And so that he can come back to her.)
I know a lot of people hated the flashback, but, forgetting how it was shown for a minute, what that scene showed us is huge. In 3x16 and in 3x22, the show confirmed that Elena loves Stefan because he is safe. The flashback confirmed what we’ve always said: Elena at her core wants Damon.
Sure, Damon was speaking generally, but his words were true for Elena. She wants a love that consumes her, passion, adventure and a little bit of danger. Elena in this episode said Damon consumes her. In 3x19, we saw that they have passion. We also saw in 3x22 that SE don’t have passion. Stefan doesn’t consume Elena. He’s stable and safe, and that’s the opposite of adventure and a little bit of danger. The flash back confirmed for us that Elena just made the wrong choice. And, she is about to realize that she had exactly what she was looking for, and she just told him she didn’t want him. For the fourth time. Over the phone. While he was possibly dying. Regret is the worst, and I think that Elena is about to have a very regretful time, love-wise.
I’m still not tuning in to watch SE together. My stomach cannot handle that. Maybe I’ll get fortified over the summer. And I hate the thought that I’m not looking forward to the show coming back because I cannot stand SE. And, after the debacle that was 3x11 - 3x22, I don’t necessarily have faith that the writers of this show can pull off what I think they’re going to do without making a mess of it. But, I at least don’t feel like I wasted my time anymore. And, I’m intersted to see if any of the above pans out.